I was reading a blog post by LYWB this morning about the importance of both men’s and women’s roles in relationships. Their post was based on Ephesians 5:23-33, and as I was reading the passage, I was struck by a thought: If this is how marrige is supposed to look, than what better place to draw guidlines from as you pursue Godly relationships. So here I have compiled a list of questions to ask myself, in regards to my future husband, based on Ephesians 5. -Corey-Ann
The Ephesians 5 Relationship
“22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 so that he might present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and without blemish. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.”
-Ephesians 5: 22-32
-Is he someone I can see myself respecting and admiring enough to willingly and gladly submit to?
-Do I see Godly wisdom in him that would guide me and his decisions?
-Does he have good judgment, that I feel sure of submitting to?
-Do I see him showing love and good character even when nobody is watching?
-Is he someone I know will love, respect, and take care of me, all the days of our lives, no matter what?
-Do I see him respecting and being kind to everyone else in his life?
-Is he a hard worker, willing to do any job, small or big, and go the
extra mile – and without complaining?
-Do I see him being humble, patient, and selfless, and having a servant’s heart?
-Do I see him treating everyone equally, regardless of who they are?
-Is he someone I know will respect, protect and stand up for me and my values?
-Is he diligent in protecting me physically, emotionally, and spiritually?
-Is he respectful of my values and diligently, and purposefully protects them?
-Do I see him standing up for the right thing, even when nobody else is?
-Do I see in him a loyalty that leaves no room for fear or questions?
-Do I see him finish what he starts, no matter how unpleasant?
-Does he keep his promises, is his word good?
-Does he display unconditional love, regardless of the person/situation?